7 lessons learned in 2016

The year 2016 has been my very own ‘Eat. Pray. Love’ experience. Filled with lessons learned in both fantastic and terrible ways πŸ™ƒ.

But you know what makes me most appreciative of learning? It is that once you have completed the lesson and have learned something, that thing is now yours for eternity! A lesson learned and knowledge gained can never be taken from you! Is that not awesome?

I have compiled a list of seven lessons the year 2016 has awarded me. At the beginning of the year 2016 I started this list and as the days went on it got fuller and now this post gives you a summarized version of my original list:

1) Confidence scares some people πŸ˜¨

I have always been a particularly confident individual, like for instance instead of shying away and being afraid of orals at school or public speaking, I would always jump at the opportunity to do so! It’s actually because of this trait that I find absolutely no problem in making good conversation with a complete stranger! Other people either respond positively or negatively to this, yet this year the negative responders grew exponentially.

It is a natural thing, it seems, for us as humans to be prejudice in our actions. Like when we meet someone who speaks and carries themselves with confidence we often hear comments like: “Oh look at her, she thinks she’s all that πŸ™„” or “He thinks he’s better than us, you can just hear it!”

Majority of the time people are unable to differentiate between confidence and arrogance, but again, that should not hinder one’s confidence. Yes, people may reject you because of your confidence but that does not mean you should change in any way. Go ahead and shower the world with your confidence and it will learn to accept and embrace you.

2) You are able to do absolutely any/everything you set your heart on πŸ‘πŸΎ

This is something I heard a lot of growing up, both from my parents at home and from the teachings we received at church. I heard it yet had no deeper understanding of it. Another part of my life that has helped develop a comprehension of this is the healing and restoration process which I have been going through since 2014.

In March 2014 I was involved in a fatal car accident that not only left me motherless, but it also left me unable to walk, talk or even eat! It has been two very eventful years and my body has now been fully restored and that is thanks to God and my determination and drive to see myself back to normal. Now, there was a point where the doctors did suggest that I may be in the wheelchair forever and some other on-lookers did share their two-cents worth of negativity, yet because my heart was set on my recovery being made manifest I did all that I needed to do in order to reach full recovery.

I believe with all of my heart that if you put your heart into it, you are able to do ABSOLUTELY anything in this world! Anything!!

3) Others will hardly (if ever!) celebrate you πŸ‘ŽπŸΎ

I once read that the most painful thing in life is living it with the expectation that everyone else has the same heart as you. This is so true.

I am such a celebrator of life. Like there is nothing in life that happens that I don’t celebrate or reflect on. Little did I know that we are not all this way. I received the shock of my life when I learned that some people see you achieving something, witness your victory and quickly look away as fast as they can in order to not acknowledge and celebrate your success. What a shame πŸ˜ž

This is exactly why it is so important to do you boo! Whenever you feel proud of yourself or are grateful to your universe for your triumphs in life, celebrate them. Better yet, celebrate YOU πŸ’ƒπŸΎ

4) Fear can make you do STUPID things πŸƒβ€

One thing I have sworn off completely is to be scared by fear. Looking back at this year now, I have made so many out-of-my-charecter moves all because I felt the fear and became scared.

I put the word ‘can’ in a different colour because fear can also force you to make brave moves. It really is all up to you and I choose to let fear make me brave so I may only make those bold moves and not to run and hide like a little baby!

5) There are many types of smart πŸ€“

Life now really has made it seem as though the only smart people are the ones with their noses in books and the graduates. I personally have an appreciation for education and I intend to pursue it as far as I can, not only because of the influence of my educated parents but also because I have learned, for myself, the importance of education and I have also seen how it continues to empower me!

Having said that, I also possess an admiration for self-taught professionals. I have seen that learning is not only completed at school. Life, itself, offers many lessons and that is why there isn’t one standard way of being smart!

6) Those who matter will make time for you β±

Yes, life tends to get busy and we all find ourselves caught in a web of deadlines and commitments and we also find ourselves not being able to actually enjoy our personal lives. During 2016, I learned though, that no matter how busy life may get, some people will always put in that EXTRA effort to include you in their time, and those people are the ones that matter.

I believe that a person who truly cherishes their relationship with you, that person will invest their most prized possession, their time!

7) You are perfect πŸ‘ŒπŸΎ

It has been made too difficult these days not only to believe this about yourself but to simply start thinking it! Yet, it is the truth, in all honesty and there is freedom in beginning to believe this truth. Believe it! You are enough. You are great. You are all you need. You are simply the best!

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. Sakhile Sithole says:

    Hey Aphelele, I am so glad to meet you here in the web your log about lessons learnt in 2016 is amazingly awesome. It actually speaks volumes about your passion. Thank you for sharing your experiences it was so painful to hear about your accident, back in 2014, didn’t know I would ever meet or talk to you. Your father was my lecturer at varsity and he is still my role model for diligence and intelligence. Today I am inspired by your life. Keep going, keep running, keep shining a great crown awaits you in heaven. Many people spoke well of you after your accident, I loved you without knowing you. Blessings beyond measure for you in 2017.

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    1. UpC says:

      Hello bhuti Sakhile, thank you so much for your kind words and it is a pleasure meeting you. Happy new year πŸŽ‰πŸ’ƒπŸΎβ€οΈ


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